Audio Download

1. Download the MP3 audio version of the first expedition of level one by right clicking here. and selecting "save link as".
2. Download the one page handout you will need for this expedition by clicking here.
3. Fill out the questions on the handout before you start the game and make sure you only have five pieces of clothing on before you start.
4. If you want to compete against other couples post your score in the comments section of the post called

"Post Your Score Here" on the homepage and try and earn additional points by creating the most helpful comments.

Make sure you review the rules and have fun playing.

If you are worried about what you might be asked to do during the game, you can read the transcript of the first expedition below.

 Draft Transcript of Audio For First Expedition in Level One of the

OurLoveFire.com game

This game is rated M for Married.

You will need the following materials for todays adventure.

1. Each of you need to have 5 pieces of clothing on.
2. And you both need your passes to enter the forest of emotional and physical intimacy. The passes are the 10 questions you should have already filled out.

Press pause if you need to finish your preparations.

Otherwise find a good snuggling position with your spouse and listen to the following instructions.

The journey the two of you are about to embark upon could prove to be the most exciting adventure you have ever had. So lay back, relax and get ready to have a lot of fun exploring the forest of emotional and physical intimacy.

There is a country song that says “tequila makes her clothes fall off.”  While that may be true for some women, what is true for most women is actually being given a shot of emotional intimacy.

When a woman drinks deeply from the glass of emotional intimacy the desire for physical intimacy increases significantly with every passing minute.

On the flip side most men don’t feel comfortable with emotional intimacy until after they have been given a shot of physical intimacy.

This can lead to what is referred to as the sober couple syndrome. Also known as a sexless marriage.

When couples first get married the thought of a sexless marriage is crazy.  Especially if they are still within the two year window that the human body experiences at the start of a relationship. During this period the male and female brain throw wide open the doors to the lovin feelin pharmacy. This pharmacy is constantly injecting into the bloodstream a whole cocktail of love hormones. But around two years into the relationship the body starts closing the door to that lovin feelin pharmacy and a lot of couples get sobered up. All of a sudden that song about “You’ve lost that lovin feelin”, starts making a lot more sense.  

The good news is that the pharmacy doors are not locked. They are just closed.  And one of the treasures you are going to find is the nuggets of knowledge, that when used, will throw those doors wide open again.

With each daily adventure we will also provide you with a quick tip on one of the treasures you can find while playing this game together.

Today’s treasure you can find and take back to real life is a free source for testosterone and estrogen.

If you spend much time online or watching TV late at night you have probably been bombarded by ads for pills you can take to increase your testosterone. Researchers have actually found a free way to increase your testosterone. Engage in more physical intimacy.  Not only is it free but it is fun too.

Women on the other hand are being bombarded with Estrogen ads.  You’ll never guess what free method researchers have found to safely increase a woman’s estrogen levels. Engaging in more physical intimacy.

It just goes to show that sometimes the best things in life really are free.

And speaking of free it is time to start filling your cups with emotional intimacy and drinking deeply as we begin walking further into the forest of emotional intimacy.

Take the next 60 seconds for a walk down memory lane to recall everything you can that first attracted you to your spouse. Each of you will have your own 60 seconds to work with. Try to recall as many details as possible. This activity is worth a maximum of 10 points each. You get the full 10 points as long as you share at least 5 things.

Don't worry if you couldn't remember everything or if you had more thoughts but ran out of time. In the future we will explore this part of memory lane again.

Now it is time to explore your favorite date from the past. Try to recall as many details as you can about your favorite date that you have gone on together. You both get 5 points for just participating. Once again you both have 60 seconds.

Now let's fast forward to the future. Tell your spouse in 60 seconds what kind of date you would want to go on if money was no object. You get 5 points if you are able to provide enough detail to fill the full 60 seconds with no pauses lasting longer than 5 seconds.

Now take 60 seconds to share with your spouse what your ideal date would be on a budget of $20.00 You get 5 points if you are able to provide enough detail to fill the full 60 seconds with no pauses lasting longer than 5 seconds. Bonus of 10 points if you actually go on one of the dates sometime this week and then write a short description of what you did. Additional points will be given to the top 5 posts that are voted the most helpful as an idea for dates other couples can go on.


It's now time to explore another part of memory lane and this one .......has to do with physical intimacy. But before you do we want to teach you about one of the most important tools for exploring this forest in a successful and pleasurable way. In fact this tool will help you build a love fire that both of you will find mutually satisfying. The tool is called communication.

Many people find it awkward to talk about intimacy and their body parts. This can lead to misunderstandings and physical and emotional pain. The best way to avoid this pain is to learn how to use the tool of communication.  Any new skill will feel awkward but the more you practice it the more natural it will become.

As to the vocabulary you use for communicating about intimacy and your bodies we highly recommend you only use language that reflects the beauty and the tremendous value that they both should have.

Language can influence how much value we place on something and the beauty we see in it. So choose vocabulary that puts your bodies and the acts of physical intimacy on the pedestals they deserve. You will be amazed by the difference this seemingly little thing will make.

In the next two minutes each of you will have 60 seconds to describe in great detail your favorite memory of engaging in physical intimacy with your spouse. Give yourself a score between 1-10 on how well you did in using language that reflects the value of how special the experience was.


The next area of the forest we are going to explore is the physical intimacy area and your clothing is no longer needed.

Removing each others clothing is like gathering sticks for your fire. If done right it can be an incredibly sensual experience. And sensuality produces wonderful fuel for your love fire.


But in this game you have to earn the privilege of being able to sensually remove your spouse’s clothing.

Before the game started you both wrote down answers to a series of questions on your passes to enter the forest. Now it's time to reward you for how well you know your spouse.

Each question you get correct is not only worth 1 point but the greater reward is that it allows you to slowly remove 1 item of clothing from your spouse's body. Try not to take longer than 30 seconds per item of clothing but do make sure you go slow. Take turns answering the questions and if you get through all 10 questions and your spouse still has some clothing on, then you lose the chance to remove that item of clothing. Fortunately all is not lost as you get to watch your spouse quickly remove it.

Don't get frustrated with yourself if you don't know the answers to all the questions. Part of the reason for doing this activity is to get to know each other better.

If you both finish up early then start massaging each others hands.

If either of you still have any clothing on then you have 5 seconds to quickly remove it.

Now find a comfortable snuggling position and listen to a couple of minutes of insights into exploring deeper levels of physical intimacy.

One of the greatest gifts you can give each other is to become comfortable while wearing nothing at all. If you aren't there yet don't despair. This game will give you lots of practice and more importantly insights into getting to the point where just the sight of your spouse naked will send waves of pleasure rippling through your body.


The first insight is to stop looking at porn. If you want to get to the point where you experience those orgasmic shudders of pleasure washing over your body you have to give up the porn.

No porn has ever been produced that can even come close to the experience you can visually have with your wife's real body. But ... it is only possible if you give up looking at porn in all it's various forms from the internet to movies to even something as seemingly innocent as the covers of the magazines at the grocery store. It will be difficult to experience the beauty of your wife's body if you are still comparing it to anything else, especially airbrushed bodies that don't even exist in real life. So give up the porn.

And the same goes for the women. You have to give up looking at anything where you end up comparing your body to bodies you see in the media. From the advertisements in the women's magazines, to movies, to porn in all its forms. Stop looking at it. The reason is simple. Your husband's excitement level and how attracted he is to your body is in part directly related to how you view your own body. If you are ashamed of your body and are not satisfied with it, then you significantly decrease the chances he will be excited about it.

And what you view directly impacts how you feel about your body. The best example came from an island in the pacific ocean. Before television was introduced to the island, many of the women were plus sized and honestly felt that big was beautiful. After television was introduced eating disorders became rampant and men and women were no longer satisfied  with the shapes of the women’s bodies.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  So if you want to experience the amazing sensations that come from visually making love to your spouse's body be careful what your eyes are exposed to.

Don’t expect that the pathways of your brain will be rerouted over night. But by no longer going down the porn path and instead frequently exploring the real path that is your wife’s body, you brain will make the transition. And when it does the rewards will be beyond anything you can imagine.

Now that you are both naked you are ready to explore an area of the forest of physical intimacy that you both will think you have already thoroughly explored. And that is ...each other's body. But this time you will do so in a way you have never experienced before.

Each of you will have 15 minutes to explore each other's body with your eyes and your fingertips. In later trips into the forest you will have the opportunity to use other parts of your body, like lips, hands, etc. to explore with but on this trip we will stick to your fingertips.


The person whose body is being explored can end up having a sensual experience unlike anything they have ever felt, if they will focus on doing the following four things.

1. Verbally tell your spouse if the touch hurts and let your spouse know if the touch is tickling too much. If it becomes too ticklish in a certain area say something .Your spouse can continue to explore with his or her fingertips by keeping them just barely above the surface of the skin until they have left the ticklish zone.
2. Keep your eyes closed for the full 15 minutes. 5 points if you don't open your eyes.
3. With each breath you take in, do so slowly. So slow that it takes to the count of 10 to fill your lungs completely. Then hold the air in for 3 seconds and then slowly exhale. If possible breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.
4. Focus intently on the sensation of where your spouse is touching.

When it is your turn to do the exploring follow these tips for a sensual, visual and physical experience that will flood your body with a wave of feel good hormones.
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1.Try to match your breathing to your spouse's breathing pattern. As you breathe in keep your eyes open but as you breathe out close your eyes. So in open, out closed.

2. Use your imagination and pretend you have never before explored the body of anyone of the opposite sex. As Karen Carpenter said “make believe it's your first time and I'll make believe it's mine.

3. Caress your spouse's body very slowly. Each time you breathe out close your eyes and really focus on the different sensations your fingertips feel.

During this first trip into this section of the forest we want you to explore almost every square inch of your spouse's body. Almost meaning that for now abstain from exploring the traditional erogenous zones, meaning the penis, vulva and breasts for women. On another adventure into the forest we have prepared a special session to explore in depth those areas of your bodies.

4. As you breathe in use your eyes to explore the beauty of your spouses body. Really focus on every detail and seeing the beauty in those details. Every time you see something you find beautiful then mentally tell yourself how beautiful his or her finger or earlobe is.

Start with one of you laying on your stomach and have the other one explore for around 7 minutes. I will tell you when to turn over on your back and when to switch roles.

If you finish before the 7 minutes are up then start over again. If you haven't finished don't worry because you will be coming back to this part of the forest often.

Points will be awarded as follows. If you were slow and sensual in your exploration of your spouse's body then you get 5 points for each side you did NOT finish exploring. For each side that you finished and had to start over you only get 2 points. So go slow. It will be worth it.

If you were able to exercise self control and not touch the erogenous zones of your spouses body then you get a bonus of 10 points.


So have fun and remember to go slow.

John Mayer said “Your Body is a Wonderland” so begin exploring that wonderland like it is your first time.

Now decide on who is going to go first and have him or her lay down on his or her stomach.

Time to turn over on your back.

It's time to switch roles and remember to start off on your stomach.

Time to turn over on your back.

As much fun as it would be to spend a few more hours in this part of the forest the time has come for a virtual walk back to reality.

Choose a favorite cuddling position.

Lay back and relax for just a few more instructions.

Each time you explore this part of the forest you will add new sensations to experience and new ways of seeing and experiencing your spouses body. Each visit will become an exquisite blend of sensual sensations and emotions that will ultimately culminate in having intercourse in a way that will bring you closer than ever before. And most importantly the sense of closeness will grow deeper and the fuel you find will help your fire of love grow brighter and last longer.

During your virtual walk back together to the real world play the following game.

1. Close your eyes and focus on synchronizing your breathing patterns that you have been practicing with slow breaths in to the count of 10, and then holding for 3 seconds before slowly exhaling together.
2. Take turns reviewing in your mind the areas of your spouse's body that you found beautiful. Recall in your mind with as much detail as you can the area for around 30 seconds while saying over and over again mentally, “Your chin is so beautiful” and then ask your spouse to give one guess on which area of his or her body you were thinking of. For each correct guess you get two points with a maximum value of 10 points.

At this point the wood you have collected for your love fire has probably created quite a bit of heat. As wonderful as it would be to make passionate love by the glow of that fire if you hold out a little longer the reward will be unlike anything you have probably ever experienced in your life.

However if one of you feel that there is no way you can hold out a little longer and want an orgasm right now then the spouse who wants to explore the areas of the forest that postponing an orgasm until later will uncover should go ahead and use his or her hand and fingers to give their spouse the orgasm.

Don’t try and pressure your spouse into postponing the orgasm and joining you in experiencing these deeper levels.  It really is okay to experience them yourself and in the meantime you can experience the amazing sensation that can come from giving your spouse an orgasm.  If you focus intently you can actually get to the point where you can feel the pleasure swelling inside your spouse and the explosion of orgasmic ecstasy they experience  can actually surge through your body as well.  In level three of the game we have created some optional expeditions into the forest that go into greater detail on how you can achieve this amazing experience.

Until you go exploring the forest in the next adventure feel free to passionately kiss as you see each other throughout the day, give hugs that linger, hold hands and indulge in extra cuddling. But avoid anything that would stimulate your erogenous zones.  On future adventures into the forest of emotional and physical intimacy the erogenous zones will be explored but hold off for now. To help you exercise the self control needed to hold off just keep reminding yourself that you want to see how big and hot this fire will get and how long it will last through each day. In addition, the treasures you will find along the way will make the sacrifice of holding off a little longer worth it.

If you want to compete against other couples take a minute or two to fill out your score cards. You will also be able to earn additional points by participating in the online game. Sign up at OurLoveFire.com

Or if you would like to just add your thoughts and feelings about your experience on your first adventure you can do so anonymously at OurLoveFire.com

This brings us to the end of the first expedition into the forest of emotional and physical intimacy.

For those of you who still really want an orgasm please don’t hesitate to ask your spouse to help relieve that tension. It is much better to ask your spouse now then to let the resentment build up.

If on the other hand you want to explore deeper but but feel like the the tension is too much try another 15 minutes of the in and out breathing exercise.  This time really focus on relaxing every muscle in your body as you breathe out. especially the pelvic muscles.

If this doesn’t work then try a cool to cold shower.

If you would like to help speed up how fast the other 6 hour long adventures in this level will be released please consider prepaying at a discounted rate or even just donating what you can at Kickstarter.com.  Just search for OurLoveFire.com at the kickstarter website or click here.